Friday, January 11, 2013

Combating the "New Years Depression"

It is crazy to think that last year has come and gone already. Last year was the first of a lot of things for me. I started out the year being engaged, then later married, and then later "more" married. It went by so quick that we still have the "Just Married" sticker on our car. It was the first time I really had to start thinking less about myself and more about someone else and their needs. I am now sharing my life and everything in it with someone else and not just by myself anymore. Marriage is a big adjustment to the life that I use to have, but it is also a big blessing! I feel so lucky and so blessed to have Jake in my life!

There were so many things that I had to work on balancing in my life last year, and to be honest, I do not feel like I did a very good job of it. About a week ago, Jake and I sat down and made some new years resolutions, but man have I failed already! I already had an expectation that not everything was going to be perfect, but there still is not a good feeling that comes when you do not live up to the expectations you set for yourself. Now this feeling that I have has a domino effect on my attitude and the way I act around other people. New years is supposed to be a time of freshness and renewal, but I think for a lot of people it can become a time of self-doubt. I have been been sitting here thinking about the solution to this "New Years Depression", and I am not sure I even know the specific answer.

A couple days ago I went to a Relief Society activity and we had someone come and talk about increasing our spiritual health. It was a reminder to me that we need to remember that the Lord is there and waiting to help us, but we first need to ask for help and then do our part, while continually praying along the way. I don't think there is one specific answer for anyone when it comes to combating the "New Years Depression", but I do know that if we turn to the Lord for help and guidance, he will be there to help us.

Even though a "New Years Depression" is almost always expected, that does not mean that you should not make resolutions.
If you have not made them, start them.
If you have already failed like me, keep trying!
And if you have done great so far, keep going, (and share with me your secret!).

If you are comfortable, share with someone else your resolutions, even if it is just the Lord, because you do not have to overcome or accomplish anything alone. Below are some of the more meaningful resolutions that I have made for myself.
1 - Increase my spiritual health and overall relationship with the Lord.
2 - Continue to cultivate relationships with family and friends, renew those relationships that may have been lost for a time, and try to cultivate new relationships.
3 - Be more loving and supportive of my amazing husband.
4 - Write, read, and ponder more.
5 - Be happy!  

With the Lord and others to support you, you can make this year one of the best years ever! Don't give up on who you want to become. I won't, if you won't.

Happy New Year!